596: Arthur Brooks - The Art & Science of Happiness, Defining Your Purpose, Working with Oprah, Living Authentically, and Building The Life You Want
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Read our book, The Score That Matters https://amzn.to/3XxHi7p Full show notes at www.LearningLeader.com Notes: • Arthur grew up with one goal - To be the world's greatest French horn player. He learned that striving for something was fungible across all fields of life. It was a great laboratory for learning. • Intrinsic vs Extrinsic motivation - Intrinsic motivation comes from an internal desire to accomplish a goal, while extrinsic motivation comes from external rewards and praise. • "Misery comes from excessive auto-focus." Misery comes from thinking about yourself too much and not enough about helping others. • The curse of the strive... All happiness comes from progress. • The arrival is not the goal. • How to be happy while striving: • Be grateful - Write it down. Do it daily. • Always look to help others. • "All research is 'me-search.'" • The Four Idols: • Money, Power, Pleasure, and Prestige/Fame. We talked through ours… What are yours? • The Four Focus areas to help with happiness • Faith • Family • Friendship • Serving Others • Define your purpose. Write it down. Understand why you're here. Mine = "To inspire others to value and pursue excellence." Too many people are ok with mediocrity. We should strive for more. • Oprah Winfrey is the same person everywhere she goes. She is genuine and authentic to all. • Arthur's column helped Oprah stay positive and happy through the pandemic. So much so that she called him and asked to meet. And eventually, write a book together. That book became a #1 best-seller. • #1 Life Hack: "Don't lie ever." • Arthur is jacked (in great shape). • Taking care of your body helps with unhappiness. • Wake up 1.5 hours before dawn. Work out hard. Lift weights. Do challenging cardio. • Life/Career Advice: • Don't worry too much about the first job out of college. Don't sacrifice relationships. • Bring love to every relationship and be great at what you do. Be excellent. • Emanate love and show excellence.